Rebuilding trust after it gets broken once, is a huge challenge on its own. Yet, when you’re trying to rekindle trust in an intimate relationship, things can be tougher than it seems. Statistically speaking; 70% of couples work things out and stick around even after the discovery of an affair. That’s a huge number of people that are willing to overlook infidelity and move on to a cleaner slate. So, if you and your partner are willing to make amends, there’s surely some light at the end of the tunnel. Here are a few challenges that hold back couples from recovering their relationship after infidelity.
Lack Of A Translucent Approach
The majority of times, couples healing from infidelity get lost in translation. The emotions involved in healing from a negative experience might urge couples to make vigilant yet biased decisions. So, what happens when the trajectory shifts? Maybe the partner being cheated on just needed a new perspective, closure, and time to make the final decision. It can lead to a tricky course of back and forth. One of the biggest challenges is making a unanimous and final decision. Are you ready to reconcile or should you separate? The decision should be final, and as clear as it can be. No amount of emotions or any other events should be able to alter it once it’s done. It’s hard to not get tempted by the fear of being alone even when you’re not ready to forgive your partner. Once again, a decent amount of individual or couples counseling sessions can help you land on a straightforward conclusion.
Inability To Take The Required Measures
Attending couples therapy and counseling should be the initial steps for any couple who’s trying to rekindle trust and intimacy. You’ve got to talk and put your objections on the table. Without going things over together, none of the partners might be able to heal from this negative experience. Ask yourself, whether not your partner has taken accountability for his actions? What are your future plans on making sure that this issue doesn’t arise once again? Are both partners willing to give each other the time to heal? Is the couple in question; in contact with helpful resources? These are the requirements one’s got to fulfill in order to start once again with a clean slate.
The Social Stigma Around Infidelity
“Once a cheater, always a cheater”. Even you’re willing to let go of this perception to rekindle intimacy with your partner, society will not let go of this perception. Believe it or not the stigma around infidelity, affects a couple willing to make amends way more than it seems. The recovery you and your partner are trying to make can be affected by the comments made by the people around you. The people close to your heart will never understand your situation as well as you do. Thus you might be led on to believe that you’re disrespecting yourself by returning to a “cheater”. The biggest challenge, in this case, is overlooking people’s assumptions regarding your relationship and the reasons behind patching things up.
There’s no point in sticking around or straying away when others have convinced you it’s the right decision. Believe it or not, it’s a matter of the heart as much as a matter of mind. Thus identify the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship before making the final call.
